[00:00:00] You are listening to Episode 252 of the Peaceful Mind Podcast.
Welcome to the Peaceful Mind Podcast, a place for creating the peace of mind you need to be the best mom you are created by God to be. If you want to bring more balance, more joy, and more peace to your motherhood. This is the place for you. I'm your host, certified life coach and Catholic mom, Danielle Thienel.
In the name of the Father, of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, let's get started. Before we get started, I just want to jump in here with a reminder that if you are interested in joining my program, 10% Healthier, that begins in just a few weeks. Go ahead and visit daniellethienel.com/health for more information and to see if there's any seats left.
If physical health and wellbeing and an increase of satisfaction in that area is what you're looking for in the new year of [00:01:00] 2025, be sure to check that out. Okay. And now to this week's episode, hello and welcome. If you are seeking more peace and more peace of mind in your busy life, in your busy mom life, you've come to the right place.
I want to talk today about making changes in your life. Have things when you look around, and you're like, I'm wishing this would be different. You're really saying I want things to change. And a lot of people, they might contemplate that for a minute and be like, I want things to change.
But what I'm most interested in is helping you, when that comes up in your life, to know how, to be equipped with how to understand the process of what it takes to change your life. And today in particular, I want to answer the question of how to make real, lasting life changes. And even if we don't know in [00:02:00] particular, like the switch that you want to make, if I'm not even familiar with it, and let's just give an example.
Let's say you wanted to go from not playing the piano to being someone who knows how to play, I don't know, classical pieces. Like there are certain specific steps to that goal, to that change that you're looking for that I'm not gonna like address today, but I want to talk about the three steps that are crucial to have prior to you actually taking the actions, the specific actions on whatever big goal it is that you want, or, you know, the process of change that you want.
And then when you take this proven three step process, this is what makes lasting changes to whatever you want changed in your life. I'm going to walk you through three essential steps that can help you go from feeling stuck to actually seeing the changes you've been hoping for. And this process is [00:03:00] about transformation from the inside out.
That's exactly what the whole point in my life coaching business and here on the podcast, that is actually the key is to take your eyes off of the outside and make a shift that begins within you. And then it radiates outward into the world around you. I developed this process from my own experiences as a mom, because I have created so much change in my life.
I have increased the satisfaction in the areas of my life. And then all my experience now as a coach in, in being certified in learning these specific tools to help you change as a person who has studied what it takes to make lasting change. And that is through what I learned through my church and through my faith principles and then just reading and different [00:04:00] growth and self development books.
And so, as a combination of all of this, I'm distilling down into seeing that these three steps are crucial for you to have lasting change in your life. Because it's not about fixing every external thing that's going on.
It starts with the one thing, which is you, and again, inside, and your mind and emotional life. That's exactly where we're focusing on today. So let's walk through these three powerful steps together, step by step, and let's get started right away. The first one to long lasting change in your life is we must come from a place of 100 percent self worth.
You must know that you are a hundred percent worthy. This step in the process of change is crucial. Often when we look [00:05:00] around at all the things we think are wrong in our lives, it's easy to feel like we, like our soul, our person, us, that we are the problem. But what I want you to understand something which is fundamental.
You, the person, are not wrong. The things around you might be out of alignment, but your inherent worth is solid and unwavering. And often what I see that keeps people from making lasting changes, they'll think of something that they want.
It could be something that like seems like out of reach or out of the norm of what you would usually, and you'd want to change to become that. But then if you're not like really strong in your self worth and who you are and who you come from, that you are a human that exists, that you're a child of God, that you are a hundred percent loved and are just a worthy person, because you are a human who exists and is, you know, taking space up [00:06:00] in this world, right?
If you don't have that, then you're going to have thoughts like, I don't deserve this. I'm not capable of this. Other people you know, they have things that I don't. And so this is where we want to begin. We want to see that the things that feel off in our lives are simply reflections of areas that we might need to shift our thinking about, or we want to shift our habits within those areas.
That's all. It's not that you're not self, that you're not worthy. Okay, so this understanding creates a strong foundation for you. I think about palm trees and how they are strong, like what they uphold, like what they withstand, I guess, when a, you know, storms come and things like that, They're strong, but they're, they're flexible.
We might be somebody who questions our self worth on occasion, but I want you to see is that just the bending of the tree and, [00:07:00] and I want you to bring your mind right back to what you know, that you are a beautiful, wonderful, perfect creation of God. And this strong foundation, right? When we've decided we want change in our life we want to approach change from a place of acceptance of ourselves, our strengths, our weaknesses, and we want to give ourselves compassion that we won't be perfect along the way. And that we may not be great at everything, but that we can learn from our mistakes instead of coming from this place where you criticize.
And criticize you as a human, as a person. So, all that to say, for lasting change, this first step is necessary. You want to start from a place of 100 percent self worth of whatever change you are about to embark on.
The second step is all about gaining clarity. I [00:08:00] call it resolutely seeking to understand and what this means is really digging in to where you have held onto unhelpful thoughts, misunderstandings, or perspectives in your life that are no longer serving you.
Think about the things you've convinced yourself that are true. Perhaps you believe you're always short on time or that you have to do things a certain way in order for others to accept you. This step of seeking understanding with an open heart that this step asks you to shine a light on those thoughts. What is it that you believe about yourself and this change and the capabilities you have and what it will take to get there and instead of continuing to believe maybe what you always have believed is possible, I want you to start exploring them with curiosity.
So step two it's to seek understanding of yourself and the change you're [00:09:00] seeking with an open heart. Curiosity. Ask yourself, is this true? So when your brain says, you can't really do that is that true? If your brain says it'll be too hard. Is that true? Does your brain tell you like for step number one, you're not worthy enough for this goal.
You want to ask, is that really true? Your belief, the one that's holding you back. Where did it come from? And, and with just a little self reflection you're, you're likely to discover that some of the beliefs that you held that maybe you were told by somebody else, maybe you were you know, you read it in a certain book, maybe it was what your family always talked about.
And so you think like, that's how you need to believe, too. It's likely you're to find some beliefs that you're holding that are actually casting shadows on your path forward. So it's making it a lot darker and harder for you to see your path forward because of those belief. And so by seeking [00:10:00] understanding, you get to choose whether you want to hold on to those thoughts and beliefs or you want to let them go.
Now, as I talk through this step, I want to say that can be hard to do on your own because you have been in your life and living your life and you're energetically connected to these people who are in your life and you've got tasks to do and we don't really take our own time to have like this self reflection and to be able to uncover these beliefs.
And I want, I just want to let you know that is exactly why life coaches are here. That's what we're here for. That is exactly what I help and what really works to help my mamas get to the goals they want is because they're doing this step on the regular. Because when you have a life coach and when you have committed to exploring what's going on inside your life and your thoughts in your emotional life and in kind of seeing your actions and questioning these beliefs that you've held for a long [00:11:00] time.
This is what a coach helps you do, or at least that's what I do right. And so that is just again an option. If you are somebody who wants to make lasting change in your life, we need the step to seek understanding with an open heart. And kind of reevaluate our beliefs and see what we want to start believing about ourselves and our lives going forward and if you want help doing that I just want to offer that coaching is a beautiful place to make sure that that's pretty much guaranteed that you will be doing
Okay, so step one is to start from a place of self worth.
Step two is to seek understanding with an open heart.
Step three is to change your attitude and then you will change your world. This step is about putting the insights that you've gained from first, foundational step, right? Be like, I am a hundred percent worthy. I am worthy of all [00:12:00] the dreams and desires of my heart and the changes in my life that I want to make.
I am so worthy of this. And then I have uncovered some of the beliefs that's been holding me back. And so step three is where you then put these insights that you've gained in step two. start going into action by adjusting your attitude. And your attitude is those crucial internal things that must change for you to see external change.
And that is what is going on inside your mind and how you are feeling on a daily basis. The feelings that are behind your actions that are actually having you make the changes. We want to adjust our attitude. And this is where the real transformation happens, because when you shift your attitude, it's like changing the lens through which you see your life.
For example, if you've been carrying around a [00:13:00] belief that nothing ever works out for me, first of all, that pains me to think, and right away I'm challenging that. I'm like, really, is that true? Nothing has ever worked out for you. I would probably beg to differ as your coach. I would want to explore that.
Again, challenge that belief. Imagine the freedom and possibilities that would open up to your life if you no longer believe that about yourself. If you replaced that attitude of nothing ever works out for me with an attitude of, I'm open to things working out for me in unexpected ways.
I'm going to lean towards, I'm learning how to see how things do work out for me. That change of attitude, it does take practice. But that's the powerful necessary step that will have you then taking action that is going to bring change into your life and that change will be long [00:14:00] lasting from this change of attitude.
So let me do a little recap. To have lasting change in your life, it is key for you to know that you are not the problem. You might feel like there are so many things to fix, but your worth, your self worth isn't up for debate. So we want to start by giving ourself permission to stop looking at ourself as wrong or broken.
We want to step back and view ourself as whole. Even while you seek to improve your life, it's a perspective shift that will create a strong foundation because lasting change can't come from a place of self criticism. It has to come from a place of self acceptance and love. In step two to lasting change, this is where we want to understand where things may be going wrong, and that is in our thinking or beliefs.
And in here, we take a deep look at where certain thoughts or perceptions may be misaligned right now. And this is about observing those [00:15:00] places where we have adopted limiting beliefs for ourselves or misperceptions, and that's is what keep is keeping us feeling stuck. So for example, if you constantly feel overwhelmed by all your roles, this step would invite you to ask, what am I believing about myself?
What am I believing about my responsibilities that are causing this stress? And identifying those underlining thoughts, it's like discovering the invisible strings that have been pulling and really kind of dictating the patterns in your life. So this self awareness in step two is so powerful because it lets you shine light on what has like now been casting a shadow on how to make these changes.
And then last in step three, just to wrap up, I just want you to know that we want to get into action and change, but it's still we want to do the internal action first. And so this is where we get [00:16:00] busy changing our attitudes. The ones that have been casting those shadows.
So if you've been thinking, I have to do everything perfectly now's the time to replace that with a more compassionate, realistic belief. Like I'm allowed to do my best and let that be enough. So this step involves rewiring our attitudes and perspectives. And when we start showing up differently, not just for ourselves, but in the way we handle our relationships, our responsibilities, and even our setbacks, we now start to see real changes in our lives.
So, ultimately, the goal here is to make shifts that feel authentic and sustainable to ourselves, but it is about becoming a changed person first so that the situations around you have no choice but to respond to the new empowered version of yourself. Everyone, life [00:17:00] is so full of opportunities to grow, right?
Sometimes there are opportunities that we wouldn't have welcomed or asked for ourself that God has, you know, place in our path. And all of that growth that we're after, it starts with us. I want you to know that no matter what you're facing, you have the power to change your life by changing how you relate to it from the inside.
So, as you go about your upcoming week, I want to invite you to practice these three steps. Remember, you're enough, you're worthy, and that real change is possible. As always, thank you for being here with me on the Peaceful Mind Podcast. If you love today's episode, please share it with a friend who might need some encouragement on their own journey.
And if you're ready to dive deeper, don't forget to check out, first I've got a new book out, The Divine Time Solution. And I also want to always invite you to come to a Back [00:18:00] to Balance strategy call with me. I have this beautiful exercise that when I walk you through, it helps uncover some places in your life where you are out of balance so that you can have this kind of new perspective on what to put your focus on and time and energy.
And it will make a difference in helping you get more clear on those goals and to help you then be able to take what you learned here today. And we're going to apply those steps to start seeing those changes unfold in your life. All right, everyone, until next week, have a beautiful rest of your week, and I'll see you next time.
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